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Sunday, October 29, 2017

Balance

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Someone dear to me has been hurt, not physically mind you, at least not directly. Those of you who have experienced betrayal might know the feeling. No blows fell, but the psychological pain feels every bit as real as being struck with a baseball bat.

I would like to say that I'm incoherent with rage, but I'm not. I'm disappointed yet remain unsurprised at how many broken people there are in the world. Perhaps they know that they aren't quite right in the head, perhaps they are oblivious.

I don't know.

I know that this shall pass, but this irks me. Really gets under my skin. What's more, I don't understand the sort of behavior evidenced by the guilty party. I really can't understand it.

But in all things there is a balance, one which we may not see in this lifetime. But you know, what goes around does indeed come around. Karma, as they say, is a bitch.

I am beside myself, these sort of things always seem to crop up around the holidays, I can't say why, maybe it just seems that way to me. But, as I'm not the one directly impacted, I have no vote, no say in the matter. All I can do is provide support. Which I have been and will continue to do.

Damn it!

Some people's kids.



22 comments:

  1. Peeps is peeps. Don't let them cause YOU to become them! Which, BTW, is my theory on why they exhibit that behavior. It justifies them.

    But, hey, I'm a fighter pilot, not a psychologist.

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    1. I always get my best advice from fighter pilots.

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  2. This is when you need to be the strong anchor to windward. When things are bad everyone needs to know that they have a safe harbor somewhere in which they will find love and comfort. You can't "fix" things for those wounded, but you can give them comfort and help them weather the storm.

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    1. I do what I can, when I can. Sometimes it helps folks if they know someone cares.

      Which I do.

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  3. "But in all things there is a balance" and you are so correct in saying that and I think most of us have been where you are. It's probably not much consolation at this point but you have friends who have your six!!

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    1. This person has a long road ahead, but they've shown themselves to be capable and strong in the past.

      I have to wonder just how much heartache a person has to endure before things settle down. Job would know.

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  4. I've been directly involved several times, where was a fighter pilot when I need one? Difficult times for sure, but then the clouds lift and the sun will bring warmth again.

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    1. I think Mrs. Cranky is your fighter pilot Joe. She has the attitude! ;)

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  5. It hurts to see someone in pain.
    We feel we could somehow alleviate it.
    All we really can do is stand by them a d show support.

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  6. If there is anything that I can do to help, let me know. Other than that, I am at a loss for words.

    Paul L. Quandt

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    1. It just takes time. While it doesn't heal all wounds completely, it takes the sting away.

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  7. I have been the strong rock for Mrs. Andrew to lean upon for over 35 years as she seems to attract fuck-up-fairies and broken people attacking her like a spotlight attracts moths.

    I have to be understanding, and inwardly strong, while inside I want to pound, rend, go beserk and perform the blood-eagle. Nothing I can ever do about it except add the latest offender to the inner 'bad' list and try to remind her, years later, when she opens her forgiving heart (one of the many, many reasons I love her. She embodies compassion.) to the turd-burglars that hurt her in the first place.

    And this is why I like full-contact sports. Gets the inner-anger out.

    Do you shoot, or do destructive things like split wood, blow up stumps, golf or something else you can get your mad and disappointment out? If so, schedule some 'you' time pronto.

    Hang in there. Being 'Gary Cooper' is a difficult thing to be. Strong, silent, supportive is hard when you want to shout and scream.

    And, walk outside in your garden and enjoy the fall. Lovely day, here in North Central Florida. Hope it is up where you be at.

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    1. Thanks Andrew, those poor electronic Nazis and Commies will be made to pay the price. FPSs are how I blow off steam.

      The weather today is overcast, cool, and windy. On the upside, it's not raining. Yet.

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  8. Have had the same in both close family and close friends. After I realized I was losing sleep over something I could not affect I turned it loose. But, there are some lines you do not cross, and when you do cross those lines you are dead to me. Do not come around looking for help or a hand up because the only help will be a boot in the ass to help you out the door.

    There, I feel better now.

    Sorry you have these problems Sarge. Hope things are better soon.

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  9. This too shall pass, but if it doesn't, we know F-18 pilots we can call in!

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  10. If you hurt me, I can deal with it well enough. But if you hurt someone I love, I don't do so well. Be at peace - stay clean.

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